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  • Writer's pictureMariam Boyles

Love is the highest vibration. Love of self is showing gratitude to the creator.

Why you should be speaking to yourself with love, and how you can get in the habit of doing so.

Self-love. We have all heard the term, but what does it really mean? Why is it so hard to get into the habit of actually applying it on a consistent basis?

We are all products of our environment. That is until we realize the patterns and conditioning and choose to break free from the cycles. Unfortunately, most of us grew up and continue to live and work in environments that do not support the concept of self-love. There is a very real difference between a child that was spoken to with kindness and heard loving phrases, accompanied with hugs and soothing touch, and a child that only heard negativity and received little to no physical touch, or the only touch they received was in the form of physical punishment. You will see the results in their behavior mostly. Their self-confidence, how they speak about themselves or others, the activities they choose to participate in, their attitude and actions towards others, etc. will be very apparent. This will continue on into adulthood if not corrected.

Most of us don't have a soft or slow life. Everything has deadlines. Everything needs our attention immediately, and we are often seen as lazy or selfish if we choose to take care of ourselves first. With all of these ideals and stigmas drilled into our heads since birth, how do you break free? How do you stop putting yourself under immense amounts of pressure? How do you stop talking to yourself negatively when you don't do something that may or may not be important?

Well, the good news is that all you have to do is create new neural pathways in your brain. This does take consistency and dedication on your end. Experts claim, it takes 3-4 weeks to create a new habit. Really, if you think about it, 3-4 weeks is really nothing. Plus, the more times in a day you do it, the easier and quicker that habit will form. So, say you want to convince yourself that you are beautiful (surprise! You Are Beautiful!) and increase your self-confidence. Some excellent ways to do this is first, every time you look at yourself in the mirror, make a note to say, "I am beautiful." Second, start dressing beautifully. Whatever you find beautiful, or you think looks ravishing on you, wear that. Wear it daily. It doesn't matter whether you are going to work or to the store, make it part of your routine. Third, Walk tall! Walking with confidence will make others take notice, and you will feel more powerful. Also, make sure to tell yourself that you are confident and powerful. Tell yourself that you can do anything. There is nothing that can stop you, because only you can stop you. No outside forces are capable. We only trick ourselves into believing that.

Do this for 30 days and really take in how you feel. Look at how you interact with others as well, or how you speak about them. I bet there will be a noticeable difference. You are worthy of self-love and care, and you are way more powerful than you know. Now, start utilizing that power correctly!

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